He is not that into you

he is not that into you

Actually during watching this movie i could not help taking him to do a comparison with those guys, couples and signs showed in this movie.

所以遇到爱时就好好珍惜吧

The first pair of couple they are in the relationship for 7 years, the girl starts quarreling with the guy for not planing to marrying with her after spending so many years with each other. They break up after a quarrel. However, because of the breakup, the guy realizes he really loves his gf, and the girl, at the same time, seeing what happened as her dad was sick and her sisters' husband just sitting on ground and playing games without helping or comforting their wife, she gave up her mind to ask a marriage from her bf. She asks her bf to commit to her though. This couple makes me think about that why people would like being in a marriage? What do they want to get from marriage?** If marriage really could bring those stuff or sense of security they want and work well as they think it should do?** If they are worried about some bad things like cheating on each other or they would break up soon if they don't marry, then those bad things may still happen without marriage to make promise to each other then. I don't really understand what am i thinking now. I just...i don't know. I seem kind of unbelieving marriage now.

Second couple is in marriage. The wife is sensitive and even over that. She keeps denying that she isn't a psycho though but she really is. She doesn't trust her husband after she found cigarettes hidden at backyard. When her husband confesses to her that he slept with other she even more concerned about that if her husband lies on her about the cigarette thing. The husband tries to refuse the sexual seduce from another girl many times though but he still makes excuse to be closer to that girl and let himself lose control and cheat on his wifeat the end. He tells the guy in the relationship i mentioned above that he really loves his wife. But he tells the girl that he was forced to marry with his wife because his wife asked that and he deemed that guy would be a jerk if he was in a relationship with a girl for many years but refused to marry with the girl. Their marriage is weird to me. They end up with divorce. The wife admits that she is way too sensitive eventually. She damages things at their new home after she found acigarette from her husband’s pocket. It is good actually for her to calm down from this twisted relationship. But it is hard to balance yourself when you fall in love with someone and trapped in side of it deeply.** If you put too much emotion in it then you lose your balance, you may make the other one feel forced and lose him/her if such situation keeps for a long time wihout any improving.**

Third one is a girl who keeps chasing her Mr.Right. Basically every guy she meets are from blind dating or under friends' introduction she always thinks everyone is the right one she waiting for. It lasts until she meets with another guy who tells her many truths and reasons that why guy doesn't ask you out or call you out. Guys just don't like you. You are not the special one. Your friends are just being nice to persuade you to stupidly believe that you are lovely pretty and humorous.You are not. HE, IS, NOT, THAT, INTO, YOU. That, is the truth. The girl still looks for love and wants to be loved, I think that is the lovely feature onher and that’s the point she gets the love the hero at the end.

I don't like people guessing a lot when they find someone they may like or they may love. Just ask the person directly and expose him/her your real thought and ideas. Being in a relationship and loved by someone and love him/her back that is a wonderful thing. It will not always be happy, but at least you get happiness from it and experience a lot with each other.

Finally, wish everyone always could chase their love bravely even got hurt at sometime. Don't lose your ability to love someone. And, please, please believe that you are worth to be loved. Cherish love when you own it and could hug him/her as him/her around you. Even when you feel bad or hurt from current relationship and you could not bear its heaviness any more, you still need to believe so, believe that you are deserved to be loved by others. The one you are with may not be the right one, or bad timing, different situation, changeable things, people change, then, think about yourself and see it from your own perspective, if leaving is better for you, then go ahead, you will be fine as time passes.For those things I am afraid of doing and facing with, wish you could get some energy from this article to get over them.

愿每个在爱里挣扎的人都能得到自己最想要的“全剧终”；愿每个还在等待爱情的人都能在冬日暖和的街角下与ta相遇。

献给自己，也献给你们——