Chapte6 You're Wrong About Everything (But So Am I)

Part1 Q&A

1.Why "we are wrong about everything"?

Growth is an endless iterative procee. We are always in the process of approaching truth and perfection without actually ever reaching truth or perfection. So we shouldn't seek to find the ultimate "right" answer for ourselves, but rather, we should seek to chip away at the ways that we're wrong today so that we can be alittle less wrong tomoroow.

2. What caused "false memory syndrome"?

Our imagination and uncouscious belief caused "false memory syndrom". In an effort to achieve coherence, our mind will sometimes, in cases like that, invent false memories.

3. Tell us a story where you had adamantly thought you were right, but later you found you were wrong.

过去我有一种奇妙的“乐观感”，相信只要我想要我就能得到，就像是一种“许愿树”，只要我许了这个愿，那一定会梦想成真。如果我爱一个人，那我就想尽办法对他好，我就可以得到他的爱；如果我想要得到一个好的成绩，那我就努力，一定能得到最好的结果。但是忽略了脚踏实地，忽略了量力而行，忽略了尺有所长，寸有所短，一味地追求所有美好的事情，却没有找到最适合自己的，直到现实无情的给了我一些教训以后，我才明白了这些道理。

4. How to be a little certain of yourself? Please include a personal example.

过于自信就会自负，就会认为自己无所不能。大学时期在学校有太多的光环，所以曾经有一段时间让我迷失了方向，认为自己什么都是好的，什么都是对的，什么都可以做到，无所不能。可想而知，上帝不干了，给我吃了点苦头，给了我一些挫折，当然，正是这些挫折让我认清了方向，认清了自己，重新走回了正轨。

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Part2 Expressions

1. sour

But when the relationship sours, we'll often come to see those eaxct same memories differently, reinventing them in such a way as to explain our presennt-day anger toward her.

sour, turn out badly.

dic: Their relationship soon went sour.

my: After that, everything became sour for me.

2. slow down

This would slow her down but not stop her.

slow down, become less active.

dic: You will need to slow down for a while.

my: The news made me slow down.

3. budged

Her mind never changed; her beliefs never budged.

budge, refuse to change mind or to come to an agreement.

dic: Both sides say they will not budge.

my: China would never budge on the matters of terorrist.

4. strip away

We must intellectually strip them away, see their faults and biases, see how they don't fit in with much of the rest of the world, to stare our own ignorance in the face and concede, because our won ignorance is greater than us all.

strip away, reveal.

dic: Altman strips away the pretence and mythology to expose the film industry as a business like any other.

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Part3 Thoughts

It's the backwards law again: the more you try to be certain about something, the more uncertain and insecurity you will feel.

But the converse is true as well, the more you embrace being uncertain and not knowing, the more comfortable you will feel in knowing what you don't know.

很喜欢这两句话，就像有心栽花花不开，无心插柳柳成荫，人们总是有无止境的欲望，想要的太多，什么都舍不得丢弃，可拿那么多，你拿的过来吗？人们总是习惯性的建立一种无所不知的自信，特别是大男子主义的男生，习惯于在大家面前表现出一种无所不知的样子，享受着大家的崇拜，那种感觉确实很美好，可是时间久了，就会忘记自己原本的样子，也就不会成长了。书中还说到"Uncertainty is the root of all progress and all growth. As the old adage goes, the man who believes he knows everything learns nothing. We connot learn anything without first knowing something. The more we admit we do not know, the more opportunities we gain to learn."如果总是自欺欺人的自我感觉良好，那久而久之，就成了习惯，不会去想自己有什么不知道，不确定的。