2022-07-18 The Best Victory

Right since taking birth we are struggling, fighting for survival. The child is so comfortable in the mother’s womb, it doesn’t want to come out — it gives the mother labour pain as it struggles to emerge from the womb. This struggle helps in making the child strong and capable to take on the world. An early lesson — nothing comes easy in life — life is a struggle.

As we start growing up, we realise that we have to share our parental love with our siblings — for some that is easy, in others it creates a sense of jealousy, competition even for seeking one’s parents’ attention! Then off to school — where again you are competing with children of your own age — and you begin to think, ‘When will all this end?’ We seem to be in a race which never seems to end. The race to the top with peers is fine — but there will always be those who are better placed than you — they have a huge advantage over you — how do you compete?

You cannot win unequal battles — the best way is acceptance of your situation in life. Accept that there will be those who will move ahead of you, be richer than you, get a better spouse and so on — because these are all thoughts which bedevil the mind!

When we win a war, it is a one-sided victory. A true victory should benefit everyone, isn’t it! If you win the war now, your enemy will be waiting for another to opportunity to take you on again and then be victorious. How can you call this victory a real victory if there is an enemy waiting for you somewhere, just waiting to put you down?

The best way is to make your enemy you friend. You may have beaten him/her in battle (it could be war, it could be office competition, it could friendly competition, it could be marital tiffs, anything at all), showing compassion and kindness and then offering a helping hand to pick him up and move on in life — that will make him/her your friend for life. That is the best victory! Don’t be condescending in victory, be compassionate and kind and instead of an enemy who keeps holding a grudge against you, you will have made a friend who will have your back, no matter what!

Victory by winning over hearts and minds through love, compassion and kindness is the best victory. It may not be possible all the time, but whenever this happens it gives you indescribable joy and happiness. In modern times, with the amount of conflict arising out of disparity, it is difficult. Through meditation, by balancing yourself, by opening your heart chakra all this is easily possible. Try it!